Self esteem is often a hot topic among parents and educators. Research on self esteem has examined the way children are praised and suggests that not all praise is equal. The way we praise children and the language we use is important. Being mindful of the language used when conveying support to a child will help him or her to focus on behaviors and choices, it will help them find internal validation for their actions and avoid becoming dependent on external validation. We thought it would be important to take a look at how language can support a child’s self esteem by validating their experiences, behaviors, character.